Comments for Mommy News and Views Blog http://mommynewsblog.com Breastfeeding Support and Guidance from moms who have been there Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:56:49 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2 Comment on When Support Isn’t Really Support by Jenisr Svetlik http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/comment-page-1/#comment-19978 Jenisr Svetlik Wed, 08 Feb 2012 02:56:49 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=7179#comment-19978 I support breastfeeding, but I do have my opinion of breastfeeding into the older toddlerhood. However, this does not mean her comment is correct at all. Everyone has their preference on breastfeeding and for how long. She has crossed the line between support and outright badgering breastfeeding. I view her opinion, so to speak, as harsh and ignorance. What she says is wrong and very unsupportive. I support breastfeeding, but I do have my opinion of breastfeeding into the older toddlerhood. However, this does not mean her comment is correct at all. Everyone has their preference on breastfeeding and for how long. She has crossed the line between support and outright badgering breastfeeding. I view her opinion, so to speak, as harsh and ignorance. What she says is wrong and very unsupportive.

]]> Comment on When Support Isn’t Really Support by Jane http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/comment-page-1/#comment-19974 Jane Wed, 08 Feb 2012 01:47:00 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=7179#comment-19974 I think you could fairly gently poke at her argument and show that it is itself warped. Anyone who views a 5 year old as sexual has got things backwards - THEY are putting the sexual nature on the interaction and they don't understand the true innocence of children. Yes children are erotic and play with themselves, but children don't understand or want the kind of interaction that adult sexual activity involves. SO - I would put it back to her - was she abused? Why does she sexualize 5 year olds? and breasts? If someone is going to go there, I think it is fair to respond in kind to an an extent. The level of repressed sexuality and ignorance out there is saddening and depressing and I guess blogging exposes you to it. I think you could fairly gently poke at her argument and show that it is itself warped. Anyone who views a 5 year old as sexual has got things backwards – THEY are putting the sexual nature on the interaction and they don’t understand the true innocence of children. Yes children are erotic and play with themselves, but children don’t understand or want the kind of interaction that adult sexual activity involves. SO – I would put it back to her – was she abused? Why does she sexualize 5 year olds? and breasts? If someone is going to go there, I think it is fair to respond in kind to an an extent. The level of repressed sexuality and ignorance out there is saddening and depressing and I guess blogging exposes you to it.

]]> Comment on When Support Isn’t Really Support by Jessica http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/comment-page-1/#comment-19964 Jessica Tue, 07 Feb 2012 20:24:28 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=7179#comment-19964 While I do think everyone is entitled to their own opinions, I do not think it is OK to judge others or to criticise other people's choices. The definition of abuse is physical mistreatment or to cause harm to someone or something else. Breastfeeding is in no way abuse, it is about nourishment and comfort. Sure, a child that is five probably doesn't need as much nourishment from the breast as an infant, but the child is still receiving plenty of benefits from breast milk and breastfeeding is also used for comfort. I also don't understand how it is sexual when the child is five? Fifteen yes, but five? This is exactly what is meant by unsupportive support, those who pass judgement and say breastfeeding is OK, but not after they are a year old, or not in public, etc. Regardless of what anyone says, it is wonderful that you breastfed for four years. While I do think everyone is entitled to their own opinions, I do not think it is OK to judge others or to criticise other people’s choices. The definition of abuse is physical mistreatment or to cause harm to someone or something else. Breastfeeding is in no way abuse, it is about nourishment and comfort. Sure, a child that is five probably doesn’t need as much nourishment from the breast as an infant, but the child is still receiving plenty of benefits from breast milk and breastfeeding is also used for comfort. I also don’t understand how it is sexual when the child is five? Fifteen yes, but five? This is exactly what is meant by unsupportive support, those who pass judgement and say breastfeeding is OK, but not after they are a year old, or not in public, etc. Regardless of what anyone says, it is wonderful that you breastfed for four years.
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]]> Comment on When Support Isn’t Really Support by Sandy http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/comment-page-1/#comment-19960 Sandy Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:41:10 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=7179#comment-19960 Vanessa, you took the words right out of my mouth. Well said! Vanessa, you took the words right out of my mouth. Well said!

]]> Comment on When Support Isn’t Really Support by Vanessa http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/comment-page-1/#comment-19959 Vanessa Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:03:31 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=7179#comment-19959 Well... while I certainly believe that everyone is entitled to their opinions, no matter how much I disagree, this person is clearly taking it beyond opinion. Calling the mothering of a toddler "abuse" is not an opinion and can be harmful, if the person crying abuse decides to involve authorities. Look around. Abuse means neglect. Abuse means forcing someone to do something they don't want to do. Abuse means causing physical or emotional trauma. Abuse certainly is not sharing natural, physical contact by breastfeeding a child. I would also dispute this person's "credential" as a breastfeeding advocate. If she truly understood the nursing dynamic, she would know that nursing a child into preschool-hood is certainly a challenge and definitely not solely for the mother's benefit. Well… while I certainly believe that everyone is entitled to their opinions, no matter how much I disagree, this person is clearly taking it beyond opinion. Calling the mothering of a toddler “abuse” is not an opinion and can be harmful, if the person crying abuse decides to involve authorities.

Look around. Abuse means neglect. Abuse means forcing someone to do something they don’t want to do. Abuse means causing physical or emotional trauma. Abuse certainly is not sharing natural, physical contact by breastfeeding a child.

I would also dispute this person’s “credential” as a breastfeeding advocate. If she truly understood the nursing dynamic, she would know that nursing a child into preschool-hood is certainly a challenge and definitely not solely for the mother’s benefit.
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]]> Comment on When Support Isn’t Really Support by Sarah Jane http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/comment-page-1/#comment-19958 Sarah Jane Tue, 07 Feb 2012 19:02:46 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=7179#comment-19958 I agree with you. This is wrong of Facebook, but why do we keep going back and back to Facebook, if they do this. If Facebook is okay with sexual pictures, but are blatantly opposed to breastfeeding pictures, why do we log on yet again. I do to keep in touch with my friends and relatives. I've been thinking if every breastfeeding mother didn't log on to Facebook for a week, two weeks, or a month, then Facebook would probably think twice about this. Or if another social networking site popped up that was okay with breastfeeding pictures. Yes, it stinks, but my point is that if we keep logging in multiple times/day, Facebook's not going to listen. People are still using their site. I agree with you. This is wrong of Facebook, but why do we keep going back and back to Facebook, if they do this. If Facebook is okay with sexual pictures, but are blatantly opposed to breastfeeding pictures, why do we log on yet again. I do to keep in touch with my friends and relatives. I’ve been thinking if every breastfeeding mother didn’t log on to Facebook for a week, two weeks, or a month, then Facebook would probably think twice about this. Or if another social networking site popped up that was okay with breastfeeding pictures. Yes, it stinks, but my point is that if we keep logging in multiple times/day, Facebook’s not going to listen. People are still using their site.
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]]> Comment on When Support Isn’t Really Support by stacy h http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/comment-page-1/#comment-19957 stacy h Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:59:46 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=7179#comment-19957 im not going to judge a mom for bfing >5 years anymore than id judge a mom for bottle feeding. im not going to judge a mom for bfing >5 years anymore than id judge a mom for bottle feeding.

]]> Comment on When Support Isn’t Really Support by Shannon http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/comment-page-1/#comment-19956 Shannon Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:59:27 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=7179#comment-19956 I'm curious what she has to say about WHO recommendations for breastfeeding, or that they specifically state that the average age of SELF weaning ranges anywhere from 2 years of age to 7 worldwide. Does this mean WHO promotes child sexual abuse? I’m curious what she has to say about WHO recommendations for breastfeeding, or that they specifically state that the average age of SELF weaning ranges anywhere from 2 years of age to 7 worldwide. Does this mean WHO promotes child sexual abuse?

]]> Comment on When Support Isn’t Really Support by Stephanie http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/comment-page-1/#comment-19954 Stephanie Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:57:18 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=7179#comment-19954 That's a tough one. I don't have a problem with breastfeeding going that long either. It's unusual in this country, but that doesn't make it bad or abusive. That’s a tough one. I don’t have a problem with breastfeeding going that long either. It’s unusual in this country, but that doesn’t make it bad or abusive.
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]]> Comment on What Is Up With Facebook And Breastfeeding Moms? by Mommy News http://mommynewsblog.com/what-is-up-with-facebook-and-breastfeeding-moms/comment-page-1/#comment-19953 Mommy News Tue, 07 Feb 2012 18:49:31 +0000 http://mommynewsblog.com/?p=6516#comment-19953 Hi Jas, I have written a response to your comment. Please visit http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/. We support all moms on this blog and we do not judge. We hope that you will do the same. Hi Jas, I have written a response to your comment. Please visit http://mommynewsblog.com/when-support-isnt-really-support/.

We support all moms on this blog and we do not judge. We hope that you will do the same.

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