Comments on: It’s OKAY To Cry – You Just Had A Baby!

By: Lynette

Lynette — Fri, 05 Feb 2010 00:42:14 +0000

I think i held out for a week after my son was born. looking back, i’m not sure how. He was colicky from birth; he screamed most of the time and hardly slept for the first three months. Thank goodness he was a good nurser from the start.

i went upstairs to get some rest one night and ended up calling a friend. By the time she picked up the phone i was bawling. She asked what was wrong and I said I didn’t know. And really, i couldn’t put a finger on any one specific thing. It was just a culmination of everything I’d been through.

I also found it took me about amonth to recover from the sudden bursts of sadness. Doctors say if you feel this way after two weeks you have post pardum depression but I disagree. I wasn’t so depressed that i couldn’t function. i wasn’t even depressed or sad a lot. But I didn’t feel myself until about a month after I’d given birth.

Of course, the colick and the lack of sleep definitely contributed to that.
.-= Lynette´s last blog ..Who Are You And What Did You Do With My Son? =-.

By: Accidental Pharmacist

Accidental Pharmacist — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 21:47:09 +0000

And just about everyone cries on Day 3. Maybe it’s the hormones, maybe it’s reality setting in. Either way, everyone I’ve talked to has found themselves reduced to a pile of mush on Day 3 after all the adrenaline has worn off. The tears go away eventually (weeks later) but don’t be surprised – it’s normal.

By: Maribeth

Maribeth — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 17:52:22 +0000

GREAT post! I wish nurses would discuss this more with mommies before they leave the hospital or give them a handout – anything to help with the transition. This is where a postpartum doula can really help too!

By: Mommy News

Mommy News — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 15:28:27 +0000

Great tip Reiza! Thanks for posting it! — Judy

By: Reiza

Reiza — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 15:17:47 +0000

I wanted to share a quick tip that might help a new mom ask for help without feeling guilty about it. A former LLL Leader recommended it to another mom and I wished I had heard the tip earlier. I was overwhelmed when my twins came home from the NICU (and felt awful about asking for help) and I think it could have helped.

Put a “To do,” list on the fridge. That way, when people come to visit and ask “What can I do to help,” either mom or dad (because I know I always felt less guilty when dh asked for things) can say, “Hey, we have a list on the fridge. If you want to help, anything on that list would be appreciated.”

By: Melodie

Melodie — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 05:25:18 +0000

This is the best blog post I’ve read all day. Everything you say is so true and I remember myself feeling so overwhelmed and worried about my lack of mothering skills. Even with number two baby, it’s overwhelming!! There’s a new human in your charge for the next 18 years (at least!). What you said is something every new mom needs to hear. I will definetly find a reason to link this to one of my future posts. Thanks for reaching out to your Twitter friend and sharing this.

By: Kelly D

Kelly D — Sat, 07 Mar 2009 01:14:48 +0000

Funny, I had a similar conversation with a woman today. We were talking about postpartum depression and how much pressure women place on themselves after they have a baby – to be happy, to be a wife, to be a mom, to hold it together. This information will help others. Great post.