What Is A Nursing Strike?

January 12, 2010 by Mommy News
Filed under Breastfeeding Info & Tips

Many babies go through a nursing strike at one time or another. Often, moms will mistake this for “weaning.” It is rare that infants self-wear prior to 12 months old and weaning never takes place suddenly. It is always a gradual process.

A nursing strike on the other hand – typically comes on without notice. All of a sudden you little bundle of joy stops wanting to nurse or starts refusing to nurse when offered. A nursing strike can last for a few days all the way up to a few weeks.

So what’s a mom to do? Your baby has to eat right? Well, the best thing to do is to keep offering your breast at every opportunity and try to do so in situations where the lights are dimmed and it is quiet and free from distractions. Nursing strikes often happen when your baby is just starting to explore his/her environment or prior to particular milestones like walking, crawling, cutting teeth, etc. There are so many other things to see and do! Going into a dark room, and laying down to nurse will often be enough to coax your baby back to the breast.

If the strike lasts for a long time, you’ll also want to pump to keep up your milk supply. Even though you may be able to get your baby to nurse in a dim, quiet room – it may still take a week or two before he/she is ready to nurse in the hustle and bustle of daily life. So hang in there, keep doing what works and remember

“This too shall pass!”

My son went on a nursing strike when he was 13 months old. I was going on a business trip and he and I were traveling alone together for the first time. My parents were meeting us in at our destination to watch him while I attended to “business.” Well – since we were traveling alone and I had my baby with me, I decided to check my breastpump in my luggage – something I had never done before!

Well, our flights were delayed, we missed a connection AND my luggage got lost. And my son chose this day as the day that he would refuse to nurse! He used sign language at the time to communicate and he would often sign that he wanted to nurse. He did this several times through out the day. When I lifted my shirt to allow him to nurse he would start to put his mouth on my breast, and then would pull away – with a look of “disgust” or “disdain” on his face. He would then sign to nurse and pull away again.

I tried hand-expressing my milk in the airport bathroom because after several hours of this, I was getting pretty full – but I have never been able to successfully hand-express – and this day was no different. I’m sure my stress over our missed flights and my baby refusing to nurse didn’t help! When we arrived and found out that my luggage did not, I was even more distraught – because that meant my breast pump didn’t make it either.

Finally, before bed that evening, I was able to coax my son to nurse by lying down in a dark room with him. For about a week, this was the only way I could get him to nurse – by lying down in the dark. Luckily my pump and luggage showed up the next day and my son went back to his old habits and nursed like a champ for a long time!

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7 Responses to “What Is A Nursing Strike?”

Two Makes Four says:

January 12, 2010 at 9:36 am

This couldn’t have come at a better time. One of my 14-month-old twins has done this three or four times — out of the blue, won’t nurse. For the past three days, she once again rejected nursing and I thought for sure she was weaning this time. But I kept offering, “just in case,” and lo and behold — this morning, she went back to nursing as usual, as though nothing had happened!

It’s very helpful to remember that the nursing strike is sudden, and weaning is gradual! Thank you!
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Lauren @ Hobo Mama says:

January 12, 2010 at 9:05 pm

My mother told me that my brother “self-weaned” at a very young age, and I bit my tongue when I realized that it must have been a nursing strike that she mistook for weaning. I mean, what good would it do to tell her 30+ years after the fact! But I think it’s great to get this information out.

What an interesting story of your own experience, and good for you for sticking with trying to nurse even when your son seemed so dismissive. It must have seemed bewildering at the time! Grr for lost luggage…
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Mommy News says:

January 12, 2010 at 9:16 pm

Hi Lauren,

Thanks for your comment. To be honest, I think the only reason I stuck with it was because I was traveling on business and I HAD to. My pump was lost and I needed to empty my breasts. Then for the next several days, he took a bottle from my parents while I pumped at work and I only coaxed him to nurse in the AM and PM. I think if I had been at home, I might have also “thought it was weaning” and given up. I’m so glad that I wasn’t home!! — Judy
Melodie says:

January 12, 2010 at 9:55 pm

I like that you add that self-weaning rarely happens before 12 months. I’ve heard so many moms say their baby self-weaned at 6 or 9 months and I’m pretty sure they were just on a nursing strike. Great info to have. Thanks Judy!
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Ruth says:

January 15, 2010 at 5:28 pm

My daughter went on a nursing strike a few months ago when a molar she was getting in abscessed. She refused to nurse for days after the molar was fine, only nipping me once in a while when I offered the breast. I pumped and gave her milk in a sippy cup. She’d sign for milk, but refused to nurse to get it. I kept offering, and finally, 10 days after she first refused, she tentatively nursed a little in bed with me. She nursed hesitantly again that evening, and the by the end of the next day she was enthusiastically nursing again, and in fact, has seemed to “love” my breasts far more than she ever did before her strike.:-) She is now 20 months old and still wanting to nurse 4 or 5 times a day. If I had not been encouraged by a lactation consultant to hang in there and keep offering the breast, she would have been weaned, and we’d be missing out on this extended bonding. I am so glad I waited her out. Looking back, I know now that my son, who stopped nursing suddenly at 14 months (about the same age my current baby did), was simply on a nursing strike and not truly ready to wean like I thought he was doing. It makes me sad to think that it didn’t have to end then, because I was not ready to wean him at that point, and yet I did, thinking that was what he wanted.
Mommy News says:

January 15, 2010 at 9:50 pm

Hi Ruth, Thanks for sharing your story. So many moms don’t know what nursing strikes are – I certainly didn’t when my son went through one. And I would have let him “wean” had I been at home – so we were lucky that were traveling at the time and I “needed” him to nurse.

You can read our full breastfeeding journey (that went on for many years afterwards) here: http://tinyurl.com/bfingjourney

Thanks again for sharing! — Judy