I received a comment on one of my blog posts about facebook and photographs that were taken down of breastfeeding moms. I received this comment on January 11th, after I had linked to this blog article on facebook in response to some other “censorship” that facebook had been doing more recently. It took me nearly a month of looking at this comment and wondering what to do with it, before I was able to decide.
The person who left the comment is obviously involved in the breastfeeding circles, because she saw my post on facebook and came back here to leave a comment on my blog (if you click through to see it, scroll down, it is the 12th one). She claims to be a supporter of breastfeeding. Yet, this is what she had to say:
How can you claim to be a breastfeeding supporter, but attack mothers so vehemently? How can you come to my blog, where I openly discuss breastfeeding my son for nearly 4 years and my views on extended nursing and call what I do and what I support abusive?
“it IS viewed as sexual when the child is FIVE. I will fight that till the end.. that is ABUSE. as for breast feeding infant–I’m for it! but keep the ABUSIVE pictures off-line!”
I didn’t know what to do with this comment. I was shocked and saddened by it. I have the commenter’s email address (it’s only visible to moderators), so I looked her up on facebook. I don’t know her personally, but I would never pass such harsh judgements on her as she has done on me. How can anyone say that they support breastfeeding, but draw some arbitrary line in the sand about how long they will support it for or for whom they support it?
I published her comment because she left it and she wanted it to be heard. I wrote this article because I want her to know that support should not be judgmental and I want to encourage her to look outside of the lines and imagine views that differ from her own.
What would you tell this mom? How would you encourage her to be more open minded about views that she may not share? I’d love to have your feedback!